Envy is a resentful awareness of an advantage enjoyed by another coupled with a desire to possess the same advantage. Feelings of inferiority and frustration are the cause. If you are a woman who is the receiver of envy attacks, read on. You’ll benefit from knowing why women envy you and how to survive them. Not every woman envies. However, some women are so full of envy that they will find anything about you to be envious of. Once you have something that they don’t have, they just hate you. There is nothing you can do about their insecurities. That’s the way they’re wired. Also, the issue is more about them than it is about you. So relax your mind and recognize envy for what it is when it comes your way and manage it appropriately. That said, here’s why women envy you.
You’re Physically AtTractive
If you are beautiful and have a great shape women will envy you. Usually, they don’t know or appreciate all the work (i.e. eating right, working out, etc.) that you put into your body. They believe it somehow happened by magic. The extra attention men give you triggers them to no end. What’s more, attractive women instinctively know how to use their beauty to their advantage. Some women envy that fact. These are the women who are quick to stare you up and down, and throw the label of narcissism at you. Take it as a compliment.
yOU’RE fASHIONABLE
If you know how to put your outfits together and they are pretty much always on point, this will vex some women’s demons. In their warped minds, you are dressing well to make them feel bad. The truth is women who make the effort to dress extra well wear clothes that make them feel confident and attractive. Somewhere in that mix is a woman who dresses to outshine other women. But by and large, women dress to impress themselves or attract partners.
yOU wORK haRD
When you have a strong work ethic, lazy women will resent you. They have all the time in the world to waste on things that do not bear fruit, but you don’t. And so, they see you as superwoman. They wish they could have your desire and ability to get things done. Do not allow these women to derail you at work. For instance, do not talk with other co-workers about what you are experiencing. Doing so creates drama. Instead, focus on continuing to produce high-quality work.
yOU’RE iNTELLIGENT
Some groups of women (especially in the workplace) join together around not standing out and holding just ordinary run-of-the-mill opinions. If you’re an intelligent woman, you may be oblivious to the power you have to make these women feel intellectually deficient. Typically, their envy manifests itself through dislike for you and irritation over your ability to not only acquire and apply knowledge but to demonstrate it. Unfortunately, they don’t have the interpersonal and intrapersonal communication skills to recognize or alter their catty behavior. I found that the best way to handle these women is to kill them with class and respect their views. Often, taking the diplomatic road encourages them to do the same.
yOU’RE sELF-cONFIDENT
When you are a self-confident woman, women who are not so confident, and women who are who see you as competition, will envy you. Your open display of assertiveness is a threat to them. They will criticize everything you do to make you feel bad about yourself from the inside. The tiniest slip you make is magnified and vilified. Women who feel threatened by your confidence usually were raised by a mother who probably was insecure and didn’t feel warmly towards self-confident women either. Whatever the reason, do not dim your light for the sake of others. Keep shining and just let them throw shade.
YOU’RE AFFLUENT
If you have the cash to spend and are in a good financial place, women who aren’t will envy you. When they see that you are comfortable and you can stand on your own two feet, they will usually find a way to attribute your financial success to mere luck. What’s more, they will disapprove of your purchases to mask the fact that wish they had the financial freedom that you are enjoying. Make no mistake they are secretly praying that one day you will lose it all. Taking these women on will deplete your energy. Instead, just go living your best life with humility and love for yourself.